My Bridesmaids

I chose my bridesmaids this week. This is a big deal. I felt like I was proposing to them. I cannot imagine how nervous Boy Wonder was! I was a wreck, and I've known these girls for most of my life. I still have one left to ask, so hopefully that turns out well :). I can't say that I would be ok if one of them couldn't do it... but I would understand. Bridesmaid is a big job! I'm not expecting everything and the moon. In fact I mostly just want some back up, to have people I love and trust up there with me so if I fall over they will pick me up and tell me its ok and then poke fun at me about it later.

I know I've picked the right girls for the job. I've pretty much had them picked out since high school, not formally, but I think I always knew who would be with me up there.

Now here's the kicker...Maid of Honor. My fiance wants to have a Best Man so I feel like I have to have a maid of honor. I just can't choose. I don't really HAVE a best friend. They are all my best friends. Most of them have been friends for a very long time. They all have sisters (the pre-ordained maid of honors), and I don't so that makes it harder. I was going to ask my brother to be my man-of-honor, but Boy Wonder wanted to ask him to be groomsman. Somehow I think my traditional brother would be more flattered by the latter, so he will be a groomsmen :). Also, BW is all about symmetry so having an uneven bridal party (way more on my side then his) would make him crazy.

Really one doesn't need a maid of honor, because the only things they need to do is sign the registry. Its nota huge thing I guess, but there name is on our marriage. Perhaps I will ask my mother instead.

Wedding Experiances

It has been forever since that first post. As you can tell, I am simply fantastic at blogging regularily. Anyways...

To be honest not much has been planned since our engagement in February. Boy Wonder is in grad school and I work a lot. We did manage to find time in August to go to my friends wedding in the Okanagan. It was beautiful! Everyone looked amazing. The food was great, the music was great and the venue rocked. I miss the heat and fruit (and wine and lakes) of the Okanagan. Can someone please move it closer to me? Thanks.

It was wonderful so see my friends so happy and in love. I think relationships are one of those things you will never understand about your friends. No matter how close you are too them, you will never tell them, or hear, everything (good and bad) that goes on. That's how it should be. Remember that next time you are giving someone advice on their relationship because 'you don't have all of the facts'. I love learning things about my friends during speeches. You get to see how a new family percieves them! My mother hates speeches at weddings (particularily if they are long) but they are my favorite part. Buckle up mom, we're having speeches at ours!

The wedding jumnpstarted our wedding planning again, we got a bit lazy. Boy Wonder started a notebook of ideas and I lost myself in pinterest for several days before getting overwhelmed again and watching Downton Abbey for 12 hours straight. I did manage to pick and ask my bridesmaids though (thats a whole other post). This was a big step for me I think! My one bridesmaids started me a spreadsheet and asked me all these questions I never even thought of. It calmed me down to know someone has an idea of what should be planned.

We haven't set a date yet but we're thinking November 2013. Its a long ways a way, and in many ways I wish it was sooner but I think its for the best. I'm a procrastinator and a perfectionist about these things (NOT a good combo). I'm hoping the time will allow me to get everything done with minimal stress and zero bridezilla behavior. Good luck with that one, me.

First...some notes

I don't understand. Why things. Cost so much.
I don't understand... traditions and why some are good and some are necessary.
I don't understand why weddings are such a  hot button issue.